Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Stress......A huge problem for me

I'm reading the USA Today online this morning as I sip my morning tea and eat my fresh crumpets...wait. scratch that. I was drinking a cup of coffee and eating some fruit. I don't even know what a damn crumpet is.  But I came across an article about how kids pick up on parents' stress.  You can read the article on that link I just provided.

This really hit home, being that I stress WAY to much and T is always kicking my ass and telling me not to stress her and not to bring my shit home.  I stress about everything, always have and stress will probably be the death of me.

T is always telling me the kids can tell when Im stressed and bothered and it affects them.  And I know it does but sometimes its hard for me to brush shit off.

Im looking at this chart over here and thinking to myself that I don't want my kids to feel any of those emotions because of me.  I would be more stressed if my C's were feeling any of these.

Some other numbers from the study done show that
•34% say parents yell.

•30% say parents argue with other people in the household.
•18% say parents are too busy or "don't have time for me."

I wonder what my C's would say if they were old enough to fully understand all of this? 

Shit I know I yell, and the C's actually came up with their own house rules that state "NO yelling parents"  T and I do a good job of not arguing to much.  We used to be bad about it, (because of my drinking) and I don't think that my C's could say that I am too busy or don't have time for them.

The biggest thing I need to remember is that being a kid is suppose to be a fun, loving learning experience.  Do I really want my kids being wrapped up in my shit? NO!  There are plenty of things I can do to relieve stress, just like the article mentions.  I can exercise, watch tv, play the wii, have sex with T or myself for that matter.  Stop shaking your head people, Im just sayin'.  Better than eating my stress away, isn't it.

Just yesterday, I was stressing about some shit that I don't even handle.  T was getting pissed cause I was causing her stress and she was trying to home school the kids, do lunch, take care of the kids and what good does it do her to add to her everyday load?  It doesn't.  At my job, I am going to have stress everyday.  It doesn't mean that I have to make my home life fucked up with my stress.  It doesn't mean that I have to go home and be a dick to my C's because I am too lazy or stupid to figure out a way to relieve my stress.....I mean the stress is going to be there, we all just have to find ways to have it motivate us to do better, or do something to get rid of it.

So the question for you all today is...Do you stress?  Too much?  Do you think it affects your children?  What do you do to relieve your stress?

And thank you all for your comments on the DS question yesterday.  




Gretta November 9, 2010 at 12:53 PM   Reply to

I stress WAAAY too much and sadly, I do a lot of my venting in front of the kids, too. It's definitely one of my weak areas. I always say I want to do better but in the heat of the moment, I fail. By the way, tell T to check her email, she won a giveaway from my blog! :)

Jamie November 9, 2010 at 9:34 PM   Reply to

I saw this article too- so interesting! Kids are way more perceptive than we give them credit for!

passion4pink November 9, 2010 at 11:12 PM   Reply to

Yes I stress too much!! and Yes I know it worries the children because my daughters tell me all the time 'we got it from you mum but you can't help it'.HUH!

Helene November 9, 2010 at 11:56 PM   Reply to

Wow, this is serious food for thought. I stress way too much and I'm guilty of yelling at the kids. Seeing that graph makes me sad to see how our stress can affect kids. I don't even want to know what my kids would say if they were asked those same questions.

Thanks for this enlightening post!

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