I guess I will just never be happy. No matter what happens or how anything goes I am not going to be happy.
Being that for some reason I finally stopped acting like an asshole on the weekends and started having more patience and having a better attitude at home, things have gotten better. We are having more fun, more laughs, more family time. T and I are getting along better and it is really making a difference.
So why am I so unhappy?
Well before, when the weekends suck because of my bad attitude and assholishness behavior, I would hate coming to back to work because I would miss the kids and T and feel like a jerk from wasting the only time I have with them. I can remember sitting at my desk on Mondays stressing about other bullshit and how the kids probably thought Daddy was a mean person, and it just killed me.
Well now the past month or so that I have been..as the kids say NICE and not naughty, when I come to work on Mondays guess what???
THEY STILL SUCK! Man, now that the weekends are awesome I still come to work on Mondays sit at my desk and think about all the fun we had. The great things we did. The laughs. The stories. I wish I was still at home. Chillin' on the couch in the mornings with my coffee and seeing asking the kids how they slept and getting the day started and it all going well. Having fun with T and not fighting.
This long weekend was so awesome. We had fun. We played outside, worked in the yard, watched movies, it was just fun. We even went swimming yesterday for a good long time.
So for me being unhappy on Monday (this week Tuesday) mornings is just something that I will look at as being a good thing. It is a good thing that we had so much fun and that I am not acting like a jerk and the family is enjoying me being around.
Thank goodness it is a short week.
Kiss the Baby
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Tuesday, May 31, 2011
I guess I will just never be happy. No matter what happens or how anything goes I am not going to be happy.
Friday, May 27, 2011
Thursday, May 26, 2011
There are some things in my seven years of being a parent that I have learned to live with and accept and even grown to love. Pee pee on the seat, poo left in the toilet, legos on the floor waiting to be stepped on, books with torn pages...these are just a few. One of the things that I have had a LOVE/HATE relationship with as far as being a dad is
CO-SLEEPING! Now I have had my ups and downs with Co-Sleeping. I love the fact that when we had C1, he was with us and since T breastfed, no one had to get up and go get him and we, well I could sleep through the night. Add more C's and it gets more crowded and add more C's and then some move on to their own rooms and then another C and one more exits and then the 4th and final C comes and we are still currently a Co-Sleeping family.
Before you all start your shit about the benefits and everything of Co-Sleeping, I KNOW I KNOW, I don't have a problem with it. I am all for Co-Sleeping. But recently here, I am turning into a messed up, bitter tired self proclaimed non good sleeping asshole. Let me start my own pitty party like this...
I get my fat ass up anywhere from 4am to 5am to head to the gym. (MY Choice) By doing that, it means that I am tired at night. I usually try to make sure I can fall asleep by midnight. T and I start with C4 in the middle of us. Head at the headboard and feet toward the footboard. By the middle of the night the three of us look like the letter H. C4 digging his head under my ribs and feet on T (she doesn't give a shit). Or I have his nails digging into my arm and giving me a new tattoo.
Then we have one child that makes his way into our bed. C2. He loves to lay with his head near the footboard which mean his feet are...guessed it yet...IN MY FACE! And with him being our thickest, most full muscled heavy ass kid, he is not easy to move over in a dead sleep. And when he lays right on my legs he makes the covers all tight and then my thighs are squeezed together and my balls are all smashed.
So after all my beeeotching and moaning, I know what T is going to say....Go to the couch, go to the bottom bunk in C3 and C4's room, go to the basement, sleep outside with Laila for all I care...I know how she is. I cry about something so small and all I have to do is solve the problem. And he is the other thing too before my better half chimes in and talks about how I fall asleep so fast and snore till the blinds rattle, ummm..it takes me time to fall back asleep after I wake, so when I am head butted or having skin ripped off my ribs by C4 like I am a Thanksgiving turkey, it takes me time to fall back asleep.
Now I am left with a decision to make. Do I move to another room and try and get some good sleep since I am making my own self sacrifice to get up early for the gym or do I take the beating by C4, and continue to have my balls smashed by C2 who turns my legs into vice grips every night that he comes to our bed?
I guess stay tuned....But understand, I am just having one of my man periods and I will get over it soon. I really do love the co-sleeping (most of the time).
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
12 years and I was never told this before! We have been together for this long and you just tell me this NOW?
The other night, I was told that I am not a...ok..Are you ready for this...
A good kisser. Boooo Boooo...the crowd Booo's me. Well T Booo'd me and that was enough.
She told me that I am a sloppy kisser. Slobbering all over her and licking her whole face and basically drowning her like I was a washcloth.
And then she tells me something that actually wasn't a surprise...She told me she was not a kisser. She doesn't like kisses....Well from me that is. Maybe that is because I am using my tongue on her face like windshield wipers on a car? Could that be it.?????
Well after this statement of telling me I get F grade in the kissing dept. she tries to show me how I should kiss her....then it happens...
I start to....
Laugh. More Booooo's
She kept trying to show me how she wanted me to kiss her and I kept laughing as I closed in on the deal.
So, I better start practicing...Umm, no wait. That doesn't sound right. Well whatever, so I don't kiss good. I guess I do something good, she is still married to me...she still loves me...she even likes me.
Plus now I have a great excuse to kiss her more often, like that was ever a problem.
Guess what honey....kisses coming your way, all day every day and I wont even ask for one in return.
And that leaves me with this thought, I am wondering what she is going to tell me next?
She doesn't like my..... She doesn't like the way I....... Hmmmmmm. Better get my game in check.
Does your significant other tell you that you are not good at something? What?
Kiss the T
Kiss the Baby
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
As yesterday came to an end, and by an end I mean me getting ready to go to sleep, I had a feeling of satisfaction and yet a feeling of needing or wanting to do something more with myself. And not like that you sicko's I am talking about the Forest Park Breastfeeding battle.
I was thinking that for me personally, it all started with a call to the jolly ol litte fat man John Parker the City Manager of Forest Park. A man who gives true meaning to Good Ol Boy Redneck. I kept my cool with him even as he laughed at me over the phone numerous times about why I was making a big deal out of this breastfeeding issue.
Then a few blog post later and a bunch of other men and women getting involved and a Nurse In being set up, John Parker had no chance. All he could do is buckle and SAY that the City will change the law. That remains to be seen and I know plenty will have their eyes on it to make sure it happens.
It feels good to think that all the pressure made a difference. It is also a good feeling that T and the 4 C's went down yesterday and took part in something that brought together people from all over. Mothers, daughters, sons, fathers and just anyone who KNEW that what Forest Park was doing was wrong.
The kids, they had a good time playing with other kids. T met some great people. It is always good to meet new people. You never know who you will come across. You may meet someone or a family that will put a smile on your face. Good things can happen and you can learn from others.
Back to normal now,
Other than that, I have taken (gulp) four un-excused days off from the gym. I usually go every Monday thru Friday from 5:30am to 7am. I have skipped last Thurs, Fri and yesterday and today. But that all ends tomorrow morning. I will, yes I say I WILL be back for the 5am Wednesday Spin Class and then hit the weights for the workout. I am going to hit it with a new mindset....hard, hard, hard!!!!
So T doesn't like my current swimming attire. She says that they are too bug and that they fall off and show my butt crack. To that I say, 1) I have NO butt 2) They fit fine 3) We swim by ourselves. So I am either going to buy a new one that fits that she likes or I am going to go old school and just wear a pair of boxer briefs under them. OR, I am will go all Michael Phelps on her. Ohhhh Yeah.
Kiss the Baby
Monday, May 23, 2011
What a HOT HOT weekend it was.
We worked in the yard all weekend long. The kids played in the sprinkler and T and I worked in the yard. We busted our ass all weekend long. Outside pretty much all day and then at night being so tired. And oh yeah. I am so burnt. Oh well.
Saturday night after working in the yard we made another night trip to the Home Depot and got more stuff for the back yard. We are working hard to make our back yard more family friendly. Garden with veggies and some other plants around, going to hang some lights move the fire pit back, that way we can sit back there at night and get tore up by bugs.
Saturday night, I got my man crush on as T and I watched Saturday Night Live. Justin Timberlake so so funny. And Lady Ga Ga, although I am not a fan of her, she was funny in her skits too.
Sunday was more of the same. Working in the yard, kids playing. Me trying my best not to throw a major meltdown temper tantrum as I torn down our gutter while trying to add a rain barrel to the side of the house. That thing better work or it is going back to Home Depot!!!
T's Mom came over and T cooked a great batch of Lasanga. I was suppose to cook it for us, that is the one meal T loves for me to cook, but busy working in the backyard and taking C1 and C2 to play tennis, ran me over the time and I had to bail on dinner plans. She made it so good and cheesy.
T made a poster last night and got stuff ready for the Nurse In Breastfeeding Ban Rally today in Forest Park, Ga. She and the C's went down along with what is suppose to be hundreds of women and their children and some husbands to show support against the Crazy Law Ordinance say women cant breastfeed in public if the child is over the age of 2. I am glad that this is happening today and I hope that it makes a difference. I really do. A funny side note, when T was making her sign last night I kept telling her she spelled OBSCENE wrong, it was suppose to be OBSEEN. I was trying to sell her so hard that she spelled it wrong, she didn't buy it, but did tell me that on the FIRST sign, she misspelled Breast by putting Brest. We laughed so hard.
Another thing about the Nurse In, it would be so easy for T to say, umm, its far, the pool, too much to do, but she woke up early and got the C's up and out the door and went there to support something that she believes in. Awesome honey and she is getting to meet great people at the same time.
And to finish it off, I was not a jerk this weekend for the 2nd weekend in a row. May not seem like a big deal, but I have a huge problem with patience and I work on that all the time, so to not be an ass or jerk to the C's or T is a success for me.
Hope everyone had a great weekend too.
Kiss the Baby
Friday, May 20, 2011
Once again, I am going to be sitting in the tub shaving and mangrooming myself. Getting T to shave my back and get me looking all good. Like Maks from Dancing with the Stars. That is who I really look like to be honest with you. Why does body hair have to grow so flippin fast? I really need to hire my own personal waxer.
This Words With Firends game is driving me nuts. I cant beat anyone. I hereby change the name of the game to Words With People I Cant Beat!
Lego's..Still the hit in our house. Still the pain in my foot when I step on them. At least I dont wake up with any in my ass from being left in the bed. That would suck.
I took yesterday and today off from the gym, to let my body recover a little and most of all to try and stay up a little later at night with T. My body is recovered but damn, I still found it hard to stay up with the wife. But we have the weekend and I will be staying up with her then.
I am so ready to spend some time with the family this weekend. Play with the kids. Get on the wifes nerves. And so much more.
So to all of you out there
Kiss the Baby
Everything said about John Parker are opinions of my own◦
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Man, so the City of Forest Park City Council against Breastfeeding children over 2 just got a bit more interesting. I know I am not the only one sending out emails and calling news stations and faxing letters so I know this is all making a difference and I hope I am helping with what I am doing. And let me say again I have read some comments from others about breastfeeding that have really pissed me off, but since I am a male, I feel like I can only go so hard back at people, now if I was a woman, ohh boy. Watch out.
So one of the Forest Park City Council memebers has been so kind to email alot of us back. Before I had no idea of who this woman was by name. So let me break this down for you. She is in full support of the issue for letting moms breastfeed. Here is the email she sent me a little while ago.
Sorry I know this was alot to read but I wanted everyone to have the info.
Kiss the Baby
Day 1New Law in Forest Park says it will limit Breastfeeding
Day 2Continue the Fight against Forest Park
Day Number 3 of trying to get the Mayor of Forest Park, Ga. Corine Deyton on the phone. (404-366-4720) The first day I was told by her secretary "Oh she will for sure call you back" and he I am calling this morning on my third day and she of course wasnt in the office. Right, not in the office for 3 days straight. The Mayor? Im not calling the Mayor of New York, where big things happen everyday, Im calling Forest Park, Ga.
Maybe the Mayor is at a ground breaking ceremony for the opening of a new Waffle House or something..who knows?
I am so happy to announce that there is going to be a NURSE IN in the City of Forest Park on Monday the 23rd from 10am to 12pm. (I believe the time is correct). This is going to be a mass group of mothers all whipping out boobs (rolling my eyes) and getting nude (more eye rolls) and feeding their children. This is going to be awesome.
Now I am married to T the woman that is over at http://www.mycrazy4.com/ the woman who is @_Mycrazy4 on Twitter and she is on many other Natural Parenting sites and things like that. For those of you that dont know her or have had the pleasure to speak with her, blog with her, tweet with her or whatever....She is hmmmm..lets see...A strong, independant woman and she is very opinionated and never bites her tongue....
City of Forest Park, let me say this to you...You have no idea what is coming your way on Monday. I am 100% sure that my wife T is not going to be the only woman there that has the qualities I listed above. John Parker, were you ever in an arguement with a girl when you were in high school and then all of a sudden all of her friends got involved and you had a group of girls mad at you? Multiply that by Mega Millions. I know you are not the only one that voted on this or even made it into an issue...but guess what? Your the City Manager, your the one that laughed in my face over the phone and you got it coming.
Women are passionate about their kids Forest Park, just ask around. Ask your employees, ask your citizens, ask YOUR families. Woman care about their kids, that is why they are given the ability to birth them and nurture them. They care more than anything. I never knew how crazy some of these women are that are involved in the Natural Parenting Circle. And when I say Crazy, I mean Passionate, like Crazy Passionate, very involved, stick up strongly for what they believe is the best NAUTRAL way to raise children. Not Crazy like, Lady Gag Gag or anything. A good Crazy.
Last thing..Mothers, do this. Next time you see another mom nursing her child in public, tell her how proud you are of her and thank her for being part of a huge of mothers that care about providing the best for their kids no matter where and when. Guys cant do that, it would be weird.
You still have four days to make your plans to get to the City of Forest Park for the Nurse In.
Nurse In Page and Information
Kiss the Baby
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
I never claim to know anything or everything about Breastfeeding. I am just a well informed man, husband and father that supports his wife and children. My wife T is the well studied and knowledgeable one about breastfeeding and the positive effects it has on a mother and a child. She actually is the one that reads and learns about all of this.
Last night the local news, WSBtv and FOX5 ran stories about the City of Forest Park, Ga. passing a NEW LAW that will limit breastfeeding.
Monday, May 16, 2011
Why is it the weekends that I don't act like an ass go by so fast? It seems like this weekend went by so much faster than any other.
I cant decide what is more sad. The fact that the kids have to answer this question when T goes somewhere..."Was Daddy Naughty or Nice?" or That T actually ask the C's that question in the first place?
At least the answer was NICE! I was NICE all weekend long. To the C's, to T, even to Laila and Leo and Roscar.
Saturday we just hung around the house and played outside. C1 and C2 beat me in a game of basketball. Then later that night we all went to The Home Depot and bought some stuff for our veggie garden. Then the kids got to have a little piece of cookie cake and watch a movie while T and I watch "No Strings Attached" which I thought was funny and T, well she didn't.
Yesterday, the day started out with what I thought was going to be a for sure problem. Lets see, first I started my yard work early to get it done, and I had the worst time trying to get the damn weed eater to work. I have the worst luck with weed eaters and it is practically new. Then after doing that it was time to mow. Well T likes to cut the grass on the riding mower, and doesn't like to see if it has gas or not first. So I did was any good smart dumb ass husband would do....I hid the key.
Problem was come Sunday morning, I couldn't find it. Looked high and low and such a good job of hiding it, I couldn't even find it myself. Well I finally found it and got the yard done and then went went out to get the rest of the stuff for the veggie garden.
So the garden is almost done. I planted all the veggies and all that is left are the Marigolds or Marry or whatever kinds of Golds they are.
The funniest part of buying all the garden stuff was when T picked up some Moo Poo Neur or whatever, the kids didn't like smelling that. Then they kept asking if we had poo poo. Then yesterday asking if I was in the poo poo. So kids when you read this later in life, just know you ate veggie grown in poo poo.
So that is it.
Kiss the Baby
Friday, May 13, 2011
Thursday, May 12, 2011
We are at that time of the year again.
The C's are back at the pool, and a few of them are doing swimming lessons. The C's love the water. All of the C's tan very easy and get dark, very quickly...Which mean I by the weekend am going to look like I was adopted. Well at least C1, who has lighter skin will look like he belongs to me. I swear to you T, C2(by a long shot) C3 and C4 all get so very very dark. I mean so dark it is crazy. Just means, I need to get myself outside and do some yardwork and get some sun.
I have skipped my second day of the gym this week, and I get so mad at myself for it. I am having my man-period I guess. I just feel like all this work I am doing at the gym is not paying off. I am not losing as much as I wanted to and I am not getting bigger in certain areas like I wanted to. I know I cant rush it, but it still sucks to get up at 5 am and (4 am for spin class on Wednesday) go workout everyday and not see that much of a difference. T is probably shaking her head at me right now but, she knows how I am and that is just the way it is. I will be back in the gym tomorrow and finish up the week with a good workout, it is hard for me to miss two days in a row. Just need to get back at it and quit my crying.
And after that man-period soul searching sob story, I now give you....
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
How many time to do we tell ourselves and our children and even other friends that looks can be deceiving and not to judge a book by its cover. I'm sure there are a million more but I am going to stick with those.
So at our way to early soccer trophy party (10:30am...kidding about the way too early) T and I found ourselves learning this lesson. Not that we thought this family was a bad family or anything, we just didn't know that they were like the are, meaning ummm like us, you know the weird family.
By us being the weird family, let me clear that up, not the weird family like the family from "Honey I shrunk the kids" but the weird family that just does stuff that is not in the norm. The conversation with this mom of one of the kids on C2 and C3's soccer team started when she was mentioning that her older son wanted a new cell phone since his was taken and I laughed and asked how old he was and then the flood gates opened. Good flood gates.
She started telling me about wanting to home school and how they don't let their kids play up and down the street and they are only allowed in the backyard, and cant spend the night at friends house's. There was so much more. But what was funny was the political conversation we all had and how we agreed on things. In our area of where we live it is so hard core the opposite of what T and I think and we usually in the minority of what we believe in. It was funny, I have never thought that they were Obama supporters like we are.
She was telling us how protective they are of the kids and she doesnt care what anyone else says about it she wants her kids to stay as young and innocent as long as they can. They dont see it as "sheltering your children" when others might. Kind of the same way T and I are. A Disney movie, even though it may be a cartoon movie, if it is PG, the C's are not watching it. Guns, we dont allow the C's to play with guns, even one that come with legos. Just not happening. Doesnt matter that I did, or whoever or whatever. They are not doing it.
My point to all of this is that at first glance, T and I thought this family was so different than what they actually are. The husband looks like a rocker, yet the wife tells us he is the most laid back person and cleanest cut guy you will find. He is more protective of the kids than she is. She looks like she might be stuck up but she isn't, she is very nice. She and T got along well during the soccer season.
So where T and I might have thought that the girl on C2 and C3's soccer team had these rockin parents, well they turned out to be quite nice. The two sons are very nice, and the daughter who was on the team is nice also. They all played together at the soccer party that was way too early.
Along with C2 and C3 having a good fun year of soccer and getting nice trophies out of it, I feel like T and I were able to meet some nice parents for us to hang with and some nice kids for the C's to play with in the future. Remember, you may not be getting the whole story by just looking at someone and judging them by what they look like or how they act or come off as at first. T and I laughed about it all weekend, that we couldnt believe that this family was so different than what we first thought, they are the weird family, but wait so are we!
A good lesson to remember as a adult and to teach your kids.
Kiss the Baby
Monday, May 9, 2011
Ahhhh, in my house you can always tell it is the day after Mothers Day.
As she woke and put on her glasses and walked into the kitchen and grabbed her coffee, I head the words that I knew would doom my day...
"Daddy is playing Mommy today"
I wet my shorts, the C's got a look of concern, and even Roscar the Oscar, swam in his tank trying to avoid what would for sure be a doom and gloom day.
I am not close to T's level of some of the duties of running the house. But when I heard those words Igot to work.
Breakfast it was. Eggs, bacon, biscuits and milk for the kids and T finished off her bowl of potato salad that she made homemade the night before.
I started some laundry. Made the bed, folded and hung some clothes that were done and put a 23 month old back in timeout about 20 times before he stopped laughing at me and sat there. Ahhhh, it was Mothers Day and I was in control......hardly.
I would love to be awesome enough to be able to handle everything to where T could do what she wanted, coupons, internet, hairbows, sleep, do whatever. I know she loves being around the kids, so I dont mean doing anything that takes that part of the day away but let me invite you into our house as it was yesterday.....
After breakfast it was going so smooth, we were outside playing frisbee and playing in the water. The All American Sunday Mothers Day being spent outside.
My great neighbor who has the garden from the heavens came over to
help show tell DO my garden for me. I asked him a few questions the next thing I know he is in my backyard laughing at me and basically tilling my land by hand and pitchfork for us. I looked like the biggest dumbass. But he is awesome and Danny is a great neighbor.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Friday, May 6, 2011
Thursday, May 5, 2011
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
ABC....Always Be Canceling....
Can a 208 lb. me make a difference in what shows are on tv and what shows are cancelled? No, but I am going to use my blog to voice my opinion on something that I found out last.
Jamie Oliver has, well had a show on ABC called "Jamie Oliver's Food Revolution". A show that focuses on making school lunches better for children. Schools feed children shitty food. He proves it and tries to get them to change that. Last season in West Virginia he had good ratings and even won a Emmy for Outstanding Reality Show. This season trying it in California, the show has not gotten good ratings so ABC decided to pull the plug on the show and new episodes will reportedly return to screens June 9, in the Friday night at 9PM ET Death Slot time slot.
Lets see, Friday night at 9 p.m. Wonder how many people will watch it then? I know T and I will. We are supporters of Jamie Oliver and think what he is doing is a great thing. Some people don't.
Reality shows are pretty big on tv, wouldn't you say? Yeah, they are. Why would ABC pull the plug on a show that is promoting a healthy eating lifestyle for our children? I know it is big and one of the biggest and best shows on tv all the time, but do we really need two hours of Dancing With the Stars on a Tuesday night. They do the dances on Monday, vote them off on Tuesday. Why cant ABC use an hour to lead up to the show that draws viewers?
8 p.m. on Tuesday night. You can watch NCIS, Biggest Loser, Glee or One Tree Hill. Or you can do the satellite and cable thing and watch HouseSkanks of whatever County and a variety of other shows. NCIS, a show that has been on for a while and it followed by another NCIS show. Glee, I cant stand that show anyways..so whatever. One Tree Hill?????? No idea. The Biggest Loser! A reality show about losing weight, eating good and being healthier than the person WAS. A lot of people watch that show.
I am a sucker for mindless entertainment on tv. Stupid shows, sports and other funny sitcoms and stuff like that. But I also am a parent that believes in teaching my kids different lessons whether it is from T and I, our K12 homeschooling stuff, and even YES some tv. The kids, Ours and Yours can learn some good from tv shows. They actually watched Jamie Oliver's show with us and watched as he showed how much sugar is in the flavored milks and how much junk is in the fast food items. They watch and learn as we explain and discuss the show.
I am going on the offensive today and yes, I am going to attack, hammer, launch twitter bombs, blogs post and anything I can to try and get people to show disgust at ABC for canceling the show and pushing it back to June, when schools are out and kids are out doing things and (some) parents could care less about what is on tv.
I would bet that ABC wont find out about this post or read it and neither will Jamie Oliver but I am going to push it and push it till I feel like maybe someone high on the ladder is. I know I am only one person but I am boycotting ABC until the show comes back on or ABC chickenshit's out and says it is not going to be back on at all. I love ABC, there are a lot of shows I like and my basketball is on there but guess what? No more basketball either if it is on ABC.
So go ahead and watch your extra hour of Dancing With the Stars on Tuesday and while you do that, think about the shit food that your children are eating, and what you may be feeding them.
As parents, look at what you feed your kids. Learn about what you feed your kids.
You can agree or disagree with me. No haterade here in my cup except for what I am drinking for ABC.
Sorry Jamie, hope to see you in June!
Kiss the Baby
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
Monday, May 2, 2011