Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Really? Why do we treat our women so poorly? Bitches?

I'm a man. 100% Man.  I'm a husband.  I'm a father.  I'm a son.  And I will say it again, I'm 100% all Male.  I was raised by mom and grandmother and grandfather, until I was 10 years old and then my mom got married and I had another male role model in my life.  From these four people, two males and two females that were raising me, I learned from a very early age how to treat women..


Now I have gone through my years of being an ass and talking and saying nasty things, but I can remember from the moment that I met my wife she stopped me from saying things about women that I wouldn't probably say to a woman's face, like her, my mom and or her mom.

Why is it that in society it seems that it is OK to call women "Bitch" or "Bitches" or "Whores" and I mean there is a list a mile long of terms and names that men and women both use. Skank, Hussy, Slut, and the list goes on. I think that it is rude and disrespectful for a man to talk to or about a woman like that.  Now women do it to and women talk and say things about men also, but I am talking today about what I think there is a lack of in today's society and that is a lack of RESPECT FOR WOMEN.

I was in a heated debate on twitter this morning about the whole Gisele comment that she made after the game and how she shouldn't have said it and she was wrong and all this and that. Her comments may have been wrong, ill advised and badly timed but she is the wife of the QB and she is sticking up for her man, just like all of us husbands would want our woman to do. Does that give a player of the NY Giants Brandon Jacobs the right to say for her to "Stay Pretty and Shut Up"? Never mind the harassing fans yelling at her and getting in her face, that is rude and uncalled for as well.

Is it a manly thing to do to talk shit to a woman?  Call her names?  Harass a woman in any way?  That is not cool. It doesn't make you look like a man to do that stuff. Is it cool to have it in our TV shows, movies, media, music?  I don't think so. Why do we want our women demeaned?

So back to the twitter debate, so one of the umm, lightly used term here gentlemen I was having a discussion with went from the woman being wrong to say what she said to basically her having to know her role and referring to her and other women as bitches.


Is this really what we want the men of our society doing. Talking down to and calling women names?  I don't think so. I don't agree with this at all. Its fine to disagree and talk shit, but it can be done without calling and referring to women in this manner.  Men want to talk to men like that, fine whatever handle your business.  Women want to handle their business in the same way, cool.. got for it ladies, but my stance is that a MAN a REAL MAN doesn't talk to a woman like this.  Would this guy call his mom, wife, sister, daughter a "Bitch"?
Didn't Jay-Z just come out and say that he was going to stop calling women bitches since the birth of his daughter?  Is that what it takes?
I got some news for you too, you talk to my wife or daughter in that manner and I'm around to hear it or hear of it and can get my hands on are in for a time.  I'm saying it and I'm sticking by it. I don't call your ladies any of those words so keep my special ladies out of your mouth. That is how I feel about it.
Does Man not recall that the women spent hours on an uncomfortable bed pushing and screaming to give birth to us.  Does Man not remember that woman feeding us and taking care of us while we were young.  Does Man need to be reminded that a woman loves him and works with and for him to keep a house, car, family afloat?  And does Man look at his daughter and feel that he can use those phrases and have them be meant for her?
I'm asking for the men to be REAL MEN and stick up for and stand by your women. That is what we do. That is what I do. Not because I don't have balls, not because I'm weak and inferior, but because I love my wife and daughter and I refuse to let them be subject to that kind of behavior.
I may not have gotten it all out and it may not have come across the way I am wanted. I hope you all understand that I am tired of the way men treat women. Period.
Who is with me to help create a path of change?

Kiss The Baby



Anonymous,  February 8, 2012 at 11:05 AM   Reply to

I agree completely. It's so awful that our society has regressed to a permanent state of immaturity. I'm not sure if the problem is that men aren't really being taught how (or why) to become real men, if women aren't being taught how to value themselves without putting others down, or if it is something as simple as just our culture being stuck in adolescence, but it is so disheartening. I don't like to be trivialized down to a generic bad name, and I doubt that anyone else likes it. So why do we continue to hurl these insults at each other? I don't get it...

fcsfinest1 February 8, 2012 at 11:11 AM   Reply to

I hear you loud and clear. Thanks for speaking up on behalf of real men.

Helene February 8, 2012 at 12:25 PM   Reply to

All I can say is AMEN! Awesome post!!!

Christi February 8, 2012 at 1:11 PM   Reply to

I love this post. No one wants to listen to a person who is disrespectful to women. I don't think they would appreciate the women in their lives being called nasty names.

Anonymous,  February 8, 2012 at 6:20 PM   Reply to

Hey Bro,

Great post, calling men to be men. I'm with you on this one.

In a broad sense (no pun intended) there is always a debate in the States with Feminism; should men open the doors for women, BECAUSE they're women? Some women consider "chivalry" and gender-based courtesy to be sexist, b/c it doesn't treat women as equals.

But I'm with you, I treat women well b/c they are women, they deserve it.

And I'm with you on this too: "I got some news for you too, you talk to my wife or daughter in that manner and I'm around to hear it or hear of it and can get my hands on are in for a time. I'm saying it and I'm sticking by it. I don't call your ladies any of those words so keep my special ladies out of your mouth. That is how I feel about it."

I've heard it all and nothing offends me, unless someone talks about my wife and child, then the fights on!

Be a man, a man who shows respect to women.

But you're still my bro-bitch, hot, sexy blogging bitch!

hee hee,
Mark L.

kate,  February 8, 2012 at 11:09 PM   Reply to

There are two reasons why this occurs:

1. women let me treat them like that
2. women hate other women, and so they are fine with men talking to other women like that.

that results in all women accepting poor treatment from men.

-all is ~90% of the female population
-chris rock correctly pointed out fact #2
-i used to be a woman who fell under fact #1, but have sense learned something called self-esteem.

Anonymous,  February 9, 2012 at 10:04 AM   Reply to

First off...Gisele is an idiot...she SHOULD have kept her mouth shut...she just alienated oneself and her husband from all the wives and teammates...
2nd...if you act like a bitch, I'm gonna call you a bitch...but NOT just because you're a female...that's just pure ignorance.

Anonymous,  April 25, 2012 at 9:05 AM   Reply to

Respect is given until proven it's not deserved, regardless of gender. Most people have proven they doesn't really deserve any respect. American women are no different, and being a woman no longer gives you a free pass.

Sorry, but times have changed and we must hold everyone to the exact same standard.

After all, that's what women want, right?

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