This Daddys Advice on How To Treat Your "Loved One"

This is my advice post for all of you. Men, Women, Husbands, Wives, Partners of any kind.  The good thing about my advice...Sometimes I do know what I'm talking about, and this is one of those times.

We all know what tomorrow is. That's right, Valentines Day. The one day a year where we go above and beyond trying to make our loved ones feel so special. Try to make them feel like they are one in a million. But you know what, its all bullshit. I truly believe that it is all a bunch of shit. If Valentines Day is the day we dedicate to show our special ones we love them, what are the other days of the year? Just days we show them that we tolerate them?  Days to tell them we love you but not as much as the day in February.  Hey let me shower you with gifts and all kinds of material items but the rest of the year, well I'm just going to give you the basic I love you and here is a kiss to go along with that for good measure.

So what is the real meaning of Valentines Day?  In my opinion, its just another day that companies like to make a profit off of you and I and anyone else that gets suckered into spending money like it grows on trees.  I see this quote un quote holiday different than I do other ones. This day is suppose to be about love. Well if spending money and giving material items to your "loved one" is what you call love then you are on the right track. Go to the many different stores and buy your bears, candy, roses, jewelry, lingerie, and anything else you can think of.

Rows and rows of stuff to buy.  See this stuff is great for the kids. (NOT THE CANDY) Getting the little cards with Snoopy and other characters to hand out to friends and family, that is fun for kids.  Its all fine and well to get your kids some stuff and put it in cute little containers and celebrate with them. Some chocolates (plain with no dyes) like Hershey kisses or something plain like that.  The kids can have the fun days and trade Valentines Day cards and crafts and things of that nature.  That is fun for them.

The problem I have with it all is when you show up or send this entire package to your "loved one".  Maybe you send the ring, necklace or whatever.  Every kiss begins with K (Kay Jewelers) my ass.  Every kiss begins with a simple, kind and sweet gesture from one to another. 

LOOK AT THIS


Source:LiveScience

In that graph above you see all kinds of numbers and money figures and dollar signs.  You see percentages of who does this and who does that.  Let me ask this...Did anyone see any mention in that graph of anything that has to do with a simple kiss or hug?  A kind offering to make the bed or let the wife sleep in.  A mention of a spouse doing something different than they normally do?  No you didn't!

Instead of making Valentines Day a bigger than life day to show your "loved one" that you love them, why don't we do that every day?  Show your spouse or significant other that you love the daily by doing things that actually make a difference.  For me personally, there is no gift in any store that can make T smile or love me more than she already does.  There is not a single thing I could buy that would put a smile on her face.  I try and notice I said try, to do things every day that can make a difference in her life and I try to do the little things that show her and remind her that I love her each and every day, not just on February 14th.  It goes back to that 15 minutes a night. I help do what I can for a bare minimum 15 minutes. Dishes, clean, laundry, brush teeth, whatever it is.  She appreciates that even more.

Put thought into what you do for the one you love. Don't just go out and buy something.  Now the kids are giving T a necklace that has the kids names on it. She knows about it, she is the one that found a deal and used some special coupon and the kids will be excited to give her that and they will see the joy in T's face from that gesture. Kids don't know better unless they are told and we will let the kids enjoy this part of it.

Me, well I will kiss her in the morning. I will text her, tweet her, call her and tell her I love her.  I will rub her head, back, feet, and sit and talk and laugh with her and then before we go to bed, I will once again tell her I love her and kiss her and tell her to sleep good like I do every night.  But the difference is, instead of just trying to treat my wife like she is the most important person on the Earth for just that one day, I'm trying to do that everyday.  I'm trying to make each and every day Valentines Day.

Try something different.

Kiss the Baby