Thursday, March 1, 2012

Teachers having sexual relations with students...Which is worse. Male or Female?

I was one of those boys in high school that had a hot teacher. Mrs. Truffle, my social studies - history teacher. We always talked about doing things with Mrs. Truffle but being that her husband was one of the football coaches, we didn't talk too much.  What I'm getting at is this....

We all know that there are laws that say teachers and students can not have sexual relations. I believe that some of the laws will vary by state as to what age you consider that act statutory rape.  Besides the laws and what they say, I would guess that 99% of us feel that this is one sick and disgusting act.  I mean a teacher and a student getting emotionally and or sexually attached is just so wrong in my mind. 

This morning, I was hearing of the story about the "California Teen Leaves School, Moves In With Former Teacher"  Read Story Here and I was about ready to throw up. Really, what in the hell is so wrong with some people today?  A 41 year old James Hooker is in love with an 18 year old?

This teacher who knew this student since she was a freshman.  This teacher quit his job after going public with his love for her and the girl quit school so she could be with him. WTF. Oh my god.  I am so sickened by this. This guy left his wife and children to be with her.  He has a daughter that is in the same high school.  They are now living in an apartment.  The girls mother says this has been going on for a long time, including text messages and other contact.  The girl Jordan Powers who said they only developed feelings after she turned 18 last September says "“[He's] my best friend. I mean, he’s more than just a lover,”"...Wow. What makes this a case for sexual abuse or statutory rape?  What facts make this just another case of older man and younger girl?  In my opinion this is some sick stuff.

Now lets bring this one in and compare it.  Gabriel Ortiz, a 42 year old high school teacher who is being accused of having sexual relations with two boys.  Read Here  One of the boys went to a police station and reported that he and the teacher had sex from 2008-2010, making the kids 15-16 at the time I guess. Maybe 14 years old?  Now the boys are not moving in with her and she actually did serve some jail time, but what is the overall difference between this case and the other above.  Both are cases of high school students having relations with high school teachers.  Both are wrong, not only socially, morally, and ethically but they are also wrong in my eyes in just the overall balance of life.  Teachers just shouldn't have relations with the kids. No Way. No How.
One is a man with a GIRL, and the other is a woman with BOYS.  Why is one worse than the other?  Do you think one is worse than the other?  Well this is where you will probably get mad at me and leave me nasty comments and that's OK, I think that it is way worse for the grown male teacher to be in any kind of relations with a high school student.  I agree that both are sick, nasty and disgusting and shouldn't happen, but if you held me and told me to choose one, I would say the male teacher is worse.  I am thinking maybe because I see myself as a young male once and a lot of young males think about sex. But that isn't a good excuse, cause don't some younger girls thinks about sex?  I don't know. I have never been a younger girl.  I see where a high school kids may just want to have sex, as to where a high school girl would want a future with the male teacher?  But again, bad excuse, because didn't the one guy many years ago whose teacher had a baby by him and he wanted to marry her or something like that?  Guys have feelings too. 

I can only talk (blog, discuss) about what I MIGHT feel like since I am not in this situation.  As of today, right now at this point and time, I can only say that I think I would feel and handle the matter differently if it were a daughter as to a son.  I don't know. I want to say something politically correct, but I want to be honest too.  I don't think I am favoring the boys as a lesser offense because I am a guy.  I am just looking at it and I think it is way more sickening for a older male teacher to be with a younger female student.

I'm done and I will close and say that I hope I never have to be on the opposite end of the table when this discussion comes up.  So now, tell me what you think, how do you feel?  Do you agree, disagree?

Kiss The Baby



Brad Jenkins March 1, 2012 at 11:39 AM   Reply to

I agree both are wrong. If you're holding my feet to the fire, though, I would also say the male teacher is more wrong.

My only justification is the intimidation factor - maybe not the best word, but it's all I can think of on short notice. Not that all male teachers are intimidating, but the "hot" female teacher from my high school was a 5 foot nothing little thing that had trouble keeping her class in line.

I never had one female teacher I considered intimidating, but a lot of the male teachers were just that, even to me, a 6'5", 200 pound guy at the time.

Also, when I was in high school, the male teachers seemed to me to have more power, authority, and respect. Perhaps those three words combine to equal the intimidation I was talking about.

Interesting question, thanks for posing it.

Chrissy March 1, 2012 at 12:06 PM   Reply to

Both are equally wrong. I am a 32-year-old female, I have no business with a 15-year-old male! I feel like people who do this have serious issues, especially ones who are married and leave their family. It's like they're trying to feel young again. It makes them look like a complete ass. In those teen years, kids are so easily influenced and persuaded, it's no wonder they fall for a charming, older teacher. SHAME ON THOSE TEACHERS! UGH!

Tracy March 1, 2012 at 3:53 PM   Reply to

You are out of your mind! If our son was in high school say hes 15 years old, and his 30,40 year old teacher is having sex with him.You are going to tell me thats ok with you? Hell no thats not ok, hes a damn minor. I honestly can not believe you think this BS.

Scott S. March 1, 2012 at 4:07 PM   Reply to

You need to read again and see that I SAID that both are wrong but if I had to choose which is WORSE, the first was worse. Read it again and see that I mentioned a FEW times that both are sick, nasty and disgusting and WORNG. But I guess I should put that in blod

Chrissy March 2, 2012 at 7:59 AM   Reply to

I understand you said those things, but it still comes across horrible that anyone would view one as worse than another (just my opinion). I would be irate if a teacher did this with one of my sons...just as much as I'd be if it was one of my daughters. I think I'll have to ask Josh and see his reaction.

Siera March 2, 2012 at 1:14 PM   Reply to

Not all girls are as innocent as you think. I had a friend when we were 16 or 17 writig me notes about her "sexy science teacher" and the things she wanted him to do to her.

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