Wednesday, June 13, 2012

My Take On Fathers Day

Conversation came up yesterday in the office about Fathers Day.

Would you rather have the day to do whatever you want or would you rather be with the kids that are the sole reason you are a father?

I know and understand that everyone is different. Some dads like to have that day to go play golf or to do whatever they want and be away from the wife and kids.  I have no problem with dads doing that.  What I have a problem with is ME doing that.

Even if I played golf, I don't want to play on Fathers Day.  My idea of a great day would be doing anything with the kids. Nothing against golf, nothing against dads that go out and do stuff without the kids, but to me Fathers Day is a day to celebrate being a father.

A guy in the office said to me yesterday...."Well isn't that like any other day then?"  NO. I am glad and happy and fortunate to be a dad. I love being a dad. But on Fathers Day, I am going to think all day long about how great it is to be the father to my 4 C's.  If they piss me off, I will think about how I love them and how they aggravate me.  When we laugh, I will smile.

I know some dads are reading this and calling bull on me and saying that Fathers Day is the one day they get and can do do what they please to reward them for being a father.  Some are saying how stupid I am for not using that day to go out, relax and not have to do anything.  Again, if that is you, great go ahead and have your fun in the sun with the fella's and do what you do.

If T came to me and said I could have a few hours, most of the day or whatever and have it to myself for Fathers Day, I would have no idea of what to even do.  Where would I go?  With who?  Other dads?  Ummm, if I can spend time with other dads then why cant I spend that time with my kids?

Me, I'm going to celebrate my Fathers Day by spending it with my kids.  They are the reason I am a father.  I'm going to call my dad and tell him how great he is and thank him for raising a somewhat responsible man, I'm going to call my uncle and thank him for being a great influence while I was growing up, I'm going to tweet and text my friends that are dads and salute them.

I will look at T and thank her for marrying me and giving birth and offering me the chance to be a father.  And last but never least, I am going to try and explain to the kids that Fathers Day is great because of them. I'm going to tell them and let them know that Fathers Day just isn't for me, but its for them too.  I want them to know that they are the ones that make me strive to be a better person.

So whether you are with the kids or you are out on your own happy to get a break from the kids....just remember that you wouldn't be a father without them.



SaskaDad June 13, 2012 at 11:02 AM   Reply to

I love it man. I, like you, want to spend Father's Day with the ones who made me a dad. I'll take that time to myself on some other day.

christopher (@twistedxtian) June 13, 2012 at 11:02 AM   Reply to

Like you, I'm going to spend Father's Day with my kids and my wife. Maybe I'll go for a bike ride during nap time (like I typically do on Sundays) but for the most part I'm going to make the day about why I'm a day, my kids and my wife. I'm going to have a special day with them. :)

Anonymous,  June 13, 2012 at 4:28 PM   Reply to

Why? Because I'm the dad!

I feel the same way. My time away from family, no matter how fun it's supposed to be, is just time away from my favorite people.

I have opportunities to do some other interesting things, but my boy is only three once, and I only plan on having one wife.

Father's Day will be at home, plain vanilla the way I like it.

Mark L.

Tami June 14, 2012 at 2:52 PM   Reply to

WOW... Amen to that! I wrote a similar post about Mother's Day this year. So inspired to read that other dads out there (besides my own hubby) feel the same. :) Thank you for sharing... Maybe one of these days the definition of Mother's day and Father's Day will change for many.


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