Wednesday, September 26, 2012

She Had Me At........

As you can tell by my header I'm judgemental. And?  If you don't like it, don't read.  Everyone judges others and that is my opinion. 

Over the years I have changed my ways of judging others.  I try to judge others not by the person they are but by their actions.  You can judge my actions too, It won't bother me.  Question my parenting choices and I'm fine with that, question how much I love my kids and then we have a problem.  Question what kind of husband I am, fine...Question my love for my wife and I will laugh at you.  I'm fine with what people say about me.  For instance I don't care if you call me an "assclown". 

As you will find out from reading on, that by not judging someone I earned a chance to learn a lot about a person that others may have made judgements on based on one moment.

Some of you may remember a very interesting Time Magazine cover photo of Jamie Lynne Grumet.

I say interesting because so many people had so many different opinions. Some people judged her on the photo and not her parenting skills or how much she loved her children and how she cared for them.  Me personally since I agree with her choices and how she chooses to raise her children, I didn't care about the cover.  I was more interested in the article.

A TON of people couldn't even make the commitment to read it.  Just pass judgement on the cover.  A right everyone has.

Wonder what those people would say about this?

Well I'm going to assume that the same people would still be negative. Oh well.

You see the covers and think so many different things.  Guess what?  Let me blow your mind here for a minute.  Last week I had the chance to have a nice conversation with Jamie.  Damn. Guess I should have asked her if I could call her that.  I'm going for it. She knows where to find me.  It all started when she wrote a blog post about Sex.  I Am Not The Baby Sitter is her blog so go check it out and all of the other posts as well.  I couldn't believe the comments that people were leaving.  So I took it upon myself to find her on twitter and stalk her strike up some conversation about "Attachment Parenting" as well as how a man and a woman can love and have sex with each other while having children.

I have to admit and I even mention to T that I was so shocked and surprised by how kind and sweet she was.  My preconceived notion is that I was talking to a celebrity.  But I was talking to a woman, wife and mom who shared some of the same ideas that T and I do.  It was during this time that I shed some thoughts on how a man should also be there during those times of bonding and how a man can actually bond with a child when the mom / wife is breastfeeding and babywearing.  Those times are huge for moms and dads can be left out.  Fact is that some dads don't know how to include themselves during those times.

So with these two great minds, well her great mind and my great.....ummm...... yeah......charm we came up with the idea that I should write a post about how I bonded with our kids and how other dads can do the same during those precious mommy / baby moments.  Come back tomorrow to find out some of my ideas and suggestions. 

After all was said and done,  I had a different opinion of Jamie.  Not only was I proud of her for her magazine covers and her time that she puts toward making more people see parenting in a different light, I was so honored that I got a chance to see that there was more to her than just those covers.  So by not judging her as a person, I learned a lot about her in just a brief amount of time.

 If more people took the time to discover a little about each other, then just imagine how great our children's lives would be.  Not us as adults but our children.

See ya tomorrow.  Comments are always welcome and debates and conversations are great.

Kiss The Baby



May @ So Very Domestic September 26, 2012 at 1:27 PM   Reply to

Great post!! I have been reading Jamie's blog since shortly before the Time cover and I think her blog is super rad - and thanks to her linking to you on FB today, I got to read this and I think your blog is super rad too.

Becky,  September 26, 2012 at 1:32 PM   Reply to

Wonderful, keep it up!! Looking forward to more posts from you.

Rachel, Minneapolis September 26, 2012 at 1:52 PM   Reply to

Love the great attitude of this post! I'm a fan of big Pathways to Family Health magazine. Your blog looks like fun!

Anonymous,  September 27, 2012 at 1:28 AM   Reply to

I think I'm in love (Don't worry,T, with you too! Actually, the whole family!!!)

I am enjoying so much getting to know you. You most certainly may use my first name! At this point we are full on friends, mister.

Sunny September 27, 2012 at 9:08 AM   Reply to

She's pretty rocking. I've been reading her blog for a while and her family is inspirational. I think it took a lot of courage to put herself out there the way she did, in order to share what so many of us call our normal. She's also sharing amazing information about foundations that really do need the publicity in order to help those most in need.

Looking forward to reading your posts on dads and bonding.

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